What’s Hot about being single

Single? Taken? Who cares…you’re awesome!

So you’ve just gone through a break up and newly single, or you have been experiencing singledom for a while. You wonder if you’ll ever meet ‘the one’ or if you’re completely undateable. You may have given up and watched your hopeless romanticism turn into plain old depression. For some reason, your life seems unfinished. You feel there’s a hole, a gap, and you’re left wondering how the hell you are going to fill it!

Good news is flying solo doesn’t have to equal unhappiness. In fact, being single can be one of the happiest time’s in your life. But how?

Your time is your own

Two’s a crowd when you want to do your own thing. Remember all those things you wanted to do when you were in a relationship but your partner was always a bubble burster, saying “no way”, so you’d miss out. Being “happily single” can mean you can do whatever you want, when you want and no one can get on your case about it. Now is your time to do all the things you may have neglected whilst you were in a relationship. Book that trip, run that marathon, hell go to Everest, because you can!

Lose yourself to passions

One thing you will realise if you’re newly single is that all of a sudden you have so much more time. No longer are you attending dreaded events or doing someone else’s washing on the weekends. This is the perfect opportunity for you to explore what you love, to find your flow.  Sometimes we get lost in relationships and we stop doing the things we love and we neglect our interests and hobbies, the very things that make us unique and happy. This is your time to reignite your passions and fill your life with all that you love. Take a class in Tai Chi, learn how to cook, walk the beach, buy a pet. Learn to embrace precious moments alone.

Friendships are forever

When you are single you have more time to connect with the people you love and even create new amazing friendships. Cherish your friendships and be open to meeting new people. They will pick you up when you have those lonely times and fill your cup full of laughter, joy and new experiences. Human connection is a human necessity so rally your tribe!

Focus on your health

You will have more time for self nourishment. No longer do you come home from work arguing over what Netflix series to watch, eating their favourite pizza and life just feeling vanilla. You can now focus your energy on looking after yourself. Cooking for one (yes, there are cost benefits too) and taking that time to go to the gym, yoga or hiking. Why not get hot! Just for you.

Fall in love with you

Still wanting a relationship? The most important thing to finding healthy love is being in love with yourself first. Beauty comes from the inside out. It’s time to be your own best friend (self love people!) and you will find everything else will follow. You may have been giving so much love to others that you have forgotten to give love to yourself. Use your time to self care, self nourish and build on your self worth however that may be.

When you meet ‘the one’

If you do find the ‘right’ person, and you’ve established yourself and your life, you won’t have to give any of this up. You won’t want to, because all of this becomes an inherent part of who you are.

Independence can be a beautiful thing, so if you’re single out there remember, you don’t need to be rescued from your life because your life is pretty awesome as it is.

I encourage you to comment if you liked this post or would like to share your experiences. I’d love to hear from you.

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13 thoughts on “What’s Hot about being single

  1. I am currently happily single, although I have been unhappily single before. Maybe it’s age or maybe I’m more open to embracing those things mentioned in your article. I’ve never felt more empowered and excited about my life – it helps being surrounded by some amazing people. Thank you Life Interrupted x

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    1. So happy to hear this Simone, it takes time and experiences to get to a point of being happily single and feel empowered. Once you do, you can fully embrace life knowing you are exactly where you need to be. Thank you for sharing xx

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  2. Thanks Chelsea. Your writing is so beautiful. It feels so good to become self-sufficient before getting into a relationship and don’t have to sacrifice them even where you are there. Because it supposed the other person is self-sufficient too, no one’s happiness depends on anothers. Big love for you ❤

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    1. Beautiful words Maryam. Loving yourself and your life is so very important and not compromising on what makes you, you. The right person will just fit. Thank you for reading and commenting ❤️

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  3. I love your personal style of writting… its like you are speaking directly to me… time not only to listen to the advice but act on it also..

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  4. I love this 💜 it’s hard to focus on the good when you’re single and lonely, but then you have to remember that there is so much you are able to accomplish on your own. The right guy will show up, but focusing on your happiness will not only improve your overall health, it will let you do the things you’ve always wanted to do 💜

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